25 Jun 2015

Fishy good fun on Tessa's 21st Birthday!

My baby girl has officially become an adult.

She didn't see the need for a big do and I hope that in the end, the small surprise party that her Daddy's side of the family had put together for her on Father's Day, will forever be etched in her memory.

On her actual day, we were wondering what would make her happy. She said what would really make her happy was to bring her to one particular fish farm because they were bringing in new stock of Betta fish! So off we went. We ended up not just going to one but to several fish farms.

I'd suggested we visit the Singapore Zoo because ahem...if it's your Birthday, you get free admission and....and...if you hold a Taxi Driver's Vocational License, you also get free admission! Yes, you may think I'm cheapskate but you know, the entrance fee to the Zoo, River Safari and Night Safari is not cheap for the average Singaporean. That is the reason why we had stayed away from those places since the kids became too old to be included as kids in our 'Friends of the Zoo' annual membership. Otherwise, the Zoo had been our favourite place to hang out when the kids were young.

Anyway, I wasn't really sure if Mike and I would get complimentary entrance tickets to the Zoo (hearsay only about this free thingy for cabbies) and we went there pretty late (after the girl had a leisurely time at the fish farms) but were prepared to pay for the admission fees. Imagine our pleasant surprise when we found out we could not only get into the Zoo for free, but we could also get into the River Safari AND the Night Safari for free!! Haha. Yes, what glee! Do you have any idea how much money we had saved just because we had done our homework?

The Zoo hasn't changed very much since we'd last been there (how many moons ago was that?) and it was our first time at the River Safari. If it's your Birthday, you have to show proof of your birth date (Singapore I/C) to get free admission and they will also give you a badge to wear so that you can get discounts at their F & B outlets and souvenir shops (oh, and you get free ice-cream). The entrance staff were very observant and wished Tessa "Happy Birthday" when we walked through the turnstiles. In fact, the River Safari staff sang her the birthday song! So fun!

 
Tessa and Mike enjoying the creatures' underwater antics.
 

I think Tessa really enjoyed the River Safari. She was enthralled enough to go back to the tanks again; once at the start of our visit and again at the end of our visit.
 
 
Mike and I enjoying the Amazon River Quest boat ride.
 
 
We didn't buy their official snaps for us because, come on, they cost S$25 or S$35 a pop, depending on the photo frame you select. In my honest opinion, if Wildlife Reserves Singapore wants to make money from these souvenir photos, they should charge a more reasonable price (like S$10 to S$15) and more people would actually buy them. I mean, S$10 to S$15 is still expensive for a photo but we understand this is a souvenir from a tourist attraction. I would have bought at least one! Right now, they print many random visitors' photos and I assume, they end up discarding those not bought. Judging from the left overs we saw, I'd say majority of the photos would end up being discarded. Darn! I actually looked good in the Night Safari one but Tessa dragged me away and told me not to waste my money!
 
Because we had started our visit late, we had gone into the Zoo, only to exit (with our re-entry stamps on our hands) to the River Safari first for our Amazon River Quest boat ride (not free, paid for separately). We'd skipped the other scenic River Safari Cruise (next time, then) due to a lack of time. We spent most of our time at the River Safari and then popped over to the Zoo and bought our tram rides. When the zoo closed for the day, we went over to the Night Safari. It was PACKED even on a weekday due to the massive number of tour groups who had arrived there. We immediately queued up for the tram ride and were pleasantly surprised to find out that our complimentary entrance tickets at the Night Safari also included the tram rides (not so with the main Zoo).
 
Took a while for the trams to start and the ride was very, very peaceful and nice, except for the tourists seated directly behind me. They would NOT stop talking. Nope, not even when I gave several loud SSHHHHs! (and kena nudged by Mike for doing it). I could not hear the tram guide's commentary. Seriously. They pissed me off. I could not understand the gibberish but the father kept referring to his camera. Every time he took a snap, he would give a long commentary to his daughter while looking and pointing at his camera (yes, I turned around to look). The mother would not stop spraying this horrendous smelling oil and ruffling in her bag. One kid kept jumping up and down and tugging on Tessa's hair. Our tram was a mix of several nationalities and but those still queuing for trams were ALL in the same nationality as the noisy ones seated behind us! They were super noisy as they queued for their trams. When we got off the trams, they were all headed for the Creatures of the Night show but we decided to avoid them and instead spent some time chilling in the very nice outdoor restaurant.
 
The souvenir shop at the Night Safari was our last stop before we decided to call it a day. We went home and Mike and I were really exhausted. Tessa said she'd enjoyed her day and I guess, her parents aren't imaginative enough to come up with anything else for her 21st Birthday outing! Can't say I hadn't suggested swimming with sharks at the Underwater World to her (to which she had declined). That's as imaginative as I can get!
 
We had a fun family day out (John couldn't join us as he had a prior school engagement) and I'm keen to go on a date with my Ah Lau at the zoo again soon!
 
 
 



22 Jun 2015

Coming of Age

My daughter turns 21 this week.
It got me thinking.

I turned 21 many, many moons ago but I wonder if I only just recently, came of age.

Suddenly, the world doesn't seem so daunting any more because I simply could care less what the world thinks of me. I left 21 a long time ago but I am finally free.

I've worked too long at being a people pleaser. It's not that I've been docile or submissive. It's not that I set out to purposely please people. It's not that I need to please people. I think people just mistook my deference or my lack of assertiveness as a sign to walk all over me. I find this extremely ironic. On the one hand, ask anyone who knows me. They know me as being vocal and not one to keep quiet under any circumstances. On the other hand, people seem to want to tell me what to do because I let them.

How do I come across to people? I do not care any more. Because the one thing I have learnt is that you cannot always change people's perception of you, no matter what you do. So why bother? The only one who counts is God. Yet, for many of us, God is the person we are least concerned about. I am included. I want to be able to say I am a God pleaser but if I want to be truthful, I am not hardworking enough. I can say I am trying but my heart (and God knows) that I am not trying hard enough. So in this aspect, I need to keep trying to please God.

Humans. Ah, humans. I say I am done pleasing the human race but how do I please God and not please humans?  Honour thy Father and thy Mother. Love they enemy. In any circumstances? Apparently. When you do what he asks, you please Him. If I want to please Him, I need to do as He asks.

See my dilemma? We are to love our enemies, even if that means being walked all over by them.
How am I to handle it? How do you straddle being humble yet true to yourself? I do not know the answer to this. Who has? My mind is thinking of some great people in history who gave of themselves to serve others. Their lives were full and prayerful. Their lives were full of prayers but they too had ghosts which haunted them while they were still alive. How difficult their lives must have been! How great their convictions to love and serve must have been! Do I really want the world to see me as being 100% happy and purposeful? Nah. That's not being honest. Why would I want that? It's like wanting to see me 100% of the time well made up.

I cannot do it.
I do not know how to love and serve others 100%.
I know this isn't going to make God happy but I no longer wish to waste my breath and time around people who are a pain. It is no longer how I desire to spend the rest of my life.

So to my dear fellow humans:
All I know is I am done being a floor mat.
I will no longer correct you if you think I am not a smart as you, not as witty as you, not as clever as you.
I will no longer correct you if you misjudge me or if you think I am making terrible life choices.
I will let you think what you will because I am done pleasing you.
I will strive instead to be happy.
To walk with the joy of God in my stride.
To be positive.
To walk away from negative people.
To smell. To feel. To touch. To enjoy. To bask. To pleasure. To be pleasured. To love. To be loved.
To leave the judging of ME to God and God alone.

Come rain! Come wind! Come sunshine! Come Holy Spirit!
Fall afresh on me!

(Footnote:
I shouldn't praise hubs too much but it took me a long time to grow, learn and know this about myself whereas my better half already knew this about himself a long time ago! Well, better late than never!)





16 Jun 2015

Restaurant Todak (Masai, Johor Bahru, West Malaysia)

Daughter and her pals managed to eat at this seafood place in Johor Bahru called Restaurant Todak and they didn't even drive! They had taken a cab. So Mike and I decided we should try to locate it by car. Daughter joined us but the boy declined as he's 'not into seafood'. We set the GPS and it was easy enough to locate.

Here we are in the muted setting sun:

 
Restaurant Todak, Masai, JB.
 
We had stopped to shop a little before heading to Todak and had arrived around 6.30pm. It was already VERY crowded and a little chaotic. I was told by a staff member (and they are all over the place, moving about) we had to find our own table, so we did. Mike found a table in the open air section (they have a sheltered section) and the waiter was trying to dissuade us, telling us it might pour (cos we had felt a few drops falling). But we decided to take a chance and it turned out to be a good decision. The seating area of this restaurant is huge. There are many, many tables, I kid you not.
 
Surprisingly, it wasn't that difficult to get the attention of the waiter. No menus so you kind of second guess what you should order at a seafood restaurant. The waiter spoke Mandarin and I had a bit of difficulty catching the meaning of some words when he tried to explain the choices available.
 
Never having eaten there before, I was very careful to ask the estimated cost of each seafood dish as we ordered (don't really need any surprises after a meal).
 
The ambience is nice. I'd probably suggest to go earlier to catch more of the evening sun (and hopefully evening breeze). The taste of the food is only so-so to me but the reasonable price more than makes up for the lack of standard. When I say standard, I am actually unfairly comparing their standard to Singapore's more popular seafood joints' standards. I'm not going to be some idiot Singaporean, telling you the price is so cheap, so cheap. Then every Ah Beng and Ah Seng from our island will be flocking to Todak (actually, they already are, given the number of Singapore cars we saw parked there). I will only say, some dishes are more worth it than others and you won't feel the pinch as much as you would in Singapore. We definitely received no shocks. In fact, we were pleasantly surprised.
 
Would I go back? Definitely. But this time round, I would order MORE crabs. I know what dishes to skip. Not going to say. To each his own.
 
Hubby, like son, is not 'into seafood'. Yet, he patiently weaved his way through the causeway jam (ONE AND A HALF HOURS) and got a tad lost while following the GPS so that we found the restaurant in double quick time! LOL. He munched through his mantous and cracked crabs for us with this huge metal contraption (much like a huge table stapler). He was happy just knowing his ladies were happy and we love him for it! Todak, we'll be back!



11 Jun 2015

Happy 1st Anniversary, Taxi Uncle!

Me and my beloved.


He celebrates his 1st year as a Taxi Uncle tomorrow. How time flies :)

No, he doesn't wear a suit when driving. We were at a wedding, lah.
(My long hair kena 'giaped' by his hand and yes I know botox might help reduce my strong jawline but I'd like to reduce it naturally by trying to lose weight first)

I cannot imagine working 365 days, much less driving 365 days. I'm very proud of him. He's taught me that even the worst passenger cannot bring you down.

Johnny Nash's song, "I can see clearly" comes to mind:

I can see clearly now the rain is gone.
I can see all obstacles in my way.
Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind.
It's gonna be a bright (bright)
bright (bright) sunshiny day.
It's gonna be a bright (bright)
bright (bright) sunshiny day.
Oh, yes I can make it now the pain is gone.
All of the bad feelings have disappeared.
Here is that rainbow I've been praying for.
It's gonna be a bright (bright)
bright (bright) sunshiny day.
 
(ooh...) Look all around, there's nothing but blue skies.
Look straight ahead, there's nothing but blue skies.
 
I can see clearly now the rain is gone.
I can see all obstacles in my way.
Here is that rainbow I've been praying for.
It's gonna be a bright (bright)
bright (bright) sunshiny day.
It's gonna be a bright (bright)
bright (bright) sunshiny day.
It's going to be a bright (bright)
bright (bright) sunshiny day.
Yeah, hey, it's gonna be a bright (bright) bright (bright)
sunshiny day.

Here's to more good years together with my sweetheart!